Online Dating, Online Love

Online dating is the 2011 solution to finding love and companionship. People of all ages are intrigued with the process which allows you to meet others with similar interests, on your own time.

Why bother with often fruitless blind dates, bar hook ups, or random stings from Cupid’s arrow when you can put what you want on the table?

• If you’re marriage-minded, you will can specify that you are looking for a mate, not a casual playmate, without sending your gun-shy date out the door before dessert.
• If the ability to chat mutually about quantum physics or rare books over a romantic dinner is a must, you can find a match who won’t roll their eyes.
• If you want a friend with benefits, just the benefits, or want no benefits, you will share an understanding.

Membership estimates for the major dating sites exceeds 50 million, so many singles of all ages look for love there. This sounds perfect, so what’s the catch?
There really isn’t a “catch.” Services such as eHarmony, Match.com, PerfectMatch.com and other paid services, plus a variety of free sites, offer you the ability to screen and potentially meet up with interested potential mates. Once the relationship has turned personal, you take it from there. Just because you agree to meet someone who appeals to you and shares your love of mountain climbing does not mean that your second date will be at a wedding chapel.

Before you select the best service for you, you need to do some thinking about your goals.

What are you looking for? A meaningful relationship with marriage? One without long term formal commitment? Mainly sex with no ties? A gay or lesbian relationship? Someone who shares your faith or ethnicity? Your answer will determine the amount of pre-screening that you or the dating service should do. Many people say they like long walks on the beach in the moonlight; that type of cliché doesn’t hold up when real people with real life issues are involved.
How concerned are you with confidentially? Dating services have lost their stigma as the last choice of the desperate, yet most people want their search to be under the radar and safe until they are ready to be public about it. Most of the paid sites will screen your contacts with a potential partner and only give out your direct contact information with your permission when you are ready.

Should you stick with a major site or try a free online one? Dating of any kind often involves a few games where people are not completely honest about themselves in hopes of making a good impression. In an online situation, people can totally misrepresent themselves, from the picture on down. The paid dating sites collect more information and offer more extensive profile matching of potential dates, support, and confidentiality.

How much are you willing to pay? The major sites charge by the month, with cost decreasing the longer commitment you make. One of the more costly sites, eHarmony is $60 per month, with the rate dropping to $40 for each months, $30 for six month and $20 for a year.Match.com is $35 for one month but drops to $20 and 17 for three and six months, respectively. Within reason, cost should not be the determining factor. Most sites have a free trial before you have to pay. You should only decide which site is right for you after trying them out.

Online dating offer an exciting way to meet new people with the potential of friendship, conversation, and intimacy. Your relationship future can be as near as your computer!

Online Dating, Online Love

Online dating is the 2011 solution to finding love and companionship. People of all ages are intrigued with the process which allows you to meet others with similar interests, on your own time.

1 Comments

  1. Alicia Rhoades April 26, 2011

    I have found love online and by accident. On a video game called Second life. I am 32 years old and he is 18. He is so amazing! I really thought I would NEVER find love ever again after my husband died! But I did and I am so very happy!


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